It’s not always easy to get your ex back and one of the hardest parts is actually contacting them for the first time after the break up. If you contact your ex and get thing wrong it can put you in a worse position so it’s important to get it right. Approaching your ex in a subtle manner is the right way to do it. First off it is better to give them space for a few weeks before you contact them.
This will give time for any animosity in the relationship to pass over. The best way to make the original contact with them would either be a simple email or text message. I think a text message would be better because emails can be easily missed. Emails often get lost amongst spam emails plus a lot of people don’t check their emails anywhere near as much as they check their phone.
The message should be kept simple, just ask them how they have been. If they reply then great, just see how things go and then eventually ask them if they would like to meet up for a catch up chat. If they don’t respond to your message then wait a day or two before sending another. If you send too many messages you will look needy and this isn’t attractive.
Some people have a knee jerk reaction when they don’t get a response within the first hour and send a load more messages. Once your ex finds the one solitary message from you on their phone it’s enough for them to realize that you want to speak to them. If on the other hand they find countless messages from you they will get the impression that you’re desperate.
If after a week you still aren’t hearing anything then you need to try and ring them. This should be the final attempt at getting in touch with them. If you still can’t get hold of them it’s time to accept that it’s over and move on. there’s no point in putting yourself through the pain of continually contacting your ex, it would be better to just accept that it’s over.